On living a life dedicated to personal growth.

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  In between two sobs of absolute misery during my short but sudden depression as a teenager, I wailed at my mom for help. Finally frustrated with my laying-on-the-couch feeling-sorry-for-myself era of apathy, she lost it and snapped that she couldn’t fix me.   I was dumb-founded.   She can’t fix me? …   That sudden moment of crickets was an oasis of quietude after all the self-destructive anxious thoughts that had been swirling around in my head. I felt … Read More

Going with the Flow of Life

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There is a continuous balance between your external and internal phase, or doing and being, or your yin and your yang. I often feel it as an ongoing switch between me being either in Student-mode or in Teacher-mode. Last year I started living more in sync with nature’s cycles; I took a long holiday to ‘hibernate’ in December, I’m naturally syncing my menstruation with the phases of the moon, and I made Spring my time for new beginnings with omniwonder.   The more I’m … Read More

Foundations of Happiness 2/5: Gratitude.

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As I mentioned in my previous post, I believe happiness builds on three foundations: gratitude, non-attachment, and living in the present moment. Gratitude is a very direct tool that works wonders when it comes to working on a positive attitude, and I’ve never come across anything drug-free in my life that is a faster fix for happy feelings. Therefore, gratitude is where I always recommend my clients to begin.

Foundations of Happiness 1/5: Happiness is a Choice.

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I am convinced that, to some extent, happiness is a choice. What this means is that happiness is an inside job, as it always comes from within. Even if your happy feelings seem to be due to an outer source or event, this is not really the case. Happiness is a state of internal fulfillment. Instead, we often tell ourselves that when we achieve this or acquire that, we will be happy.

Why you should accept your emotionality.

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Because emotionality and sensitivity are frequently looked down upon, while their opposing character traits are heavily romanticized in the Western world, people often have a disturbed image of their own emotional behavior. We are constantly under pressure to restrain our emotional selves. We have been taught to apologize for our feelings, to be ashamed about our tears, and to fear being called hysterical or dramatic. But if you immediately discard your feelings as a weakness, how will you gain understanding … Read More

Why you should keep a gratitude diary or happiness journal.

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Every evening, minus a few exceptions, the first thing I do when I get in bed is write in my gratitude journal. I take a couple of minutes to answer questions about my happiness such as ‘what am I grateful for?’, ‘what did I do great today?’, and ‘what amazing things happened today?’.   It’s something that I absolutely love doing, and it has provided me with more benefits that I initially could imagine. I don’t believe in quick fixes … Read More

How overcoming the fear of death helped me overcome my fear of life.

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When my aunt passed away a couple of years ago, I fought the grief and confusion the way I know best: by drowning it in information. I read everything I could find about lungs, oncology, death, and even funerals. In my search for answers I stumbled upon a book by Irvin Yalom called ‘Staring at the Sun‘, about his experiences with helping clients overcoming their fear of death.   Besides the mere soothing of recognition, I learned a great deal about the … Read More

Why you should treat your partner as a guest.

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Take a second to think about the things you want to change about your partner. Little things that annoy you. Any built up resentment you have.   …   Now smile if you can’t think of anything. (And keep reading if you wish you smiled.)   The best advice I ever got about loving relationships is to be the best partner you can be. To forget about everything that he or she does, to forget about anything you want to change. … Read More

How to get rid of your fear of the future.

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I have lived a pretty unconventional life so far. I have a tendency to aim for goals that seem way out of reach, making me show up in situations you wouldn’t always expect. I have started many projects and pursued innumerable passions. I have chosen directions and strayed right off those paths. I have traveled when it made more sense to stay home and study, and I’ve spent my hard-earned money where it made more sense to save it up. … Read More